33. Why School Consequences Backfire With Neurospicy Kids

July 09, 2026 00:18:29
33. Why School Consequences Backfire With Neurospicy Kids
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33. Why School Consequences Backfire With Neurospicy Kids

Jul 09 2026 | 00:18:29

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Show Notes

When a spicy kid talks back, shuts down, or explodes over something small, the school's first move is usually more consequences, more check-ins, more adults in the room.

And most of the time, that's exactly the wrong thing to do.

This episode breaks down why a spicy kid's nervous system reads all of that as a threat, and why standard consequences and check-in cards typically backfire.

Psychotherapist Heidi Rogers walks through what helps instead. It starts with finding the one adult who makes a kid feel safe, and why connection is the only lever that reaches them.

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